Self Awareness Universe Weekly Transmission
Lessons in Conscious Living
by Dr. Traci Trimble, PhD DMPsych PaT
I have a not-so-secret secret. It is as equally valid if you are in a love relationship that you love being in, as it is if you are in a love relationship you don’t love being in…
Relationships can sometimes be exhausting but it isn’t because of them. It’s exhausting because of who we become when we forget ourselves inside of it.
In my online Spiritual Community called The Healing Sanctuary™, we have a monthly masterclass called Earth School™. Each month offers lessons about being human.
In the month of June we follow a Cosmic Cycle known as: Intimate Love Relationships.
This cycle is all about being aligned with your truth and being present in your relationship with your life partner in ways that support you both in learning and growing.
For over a decade, I have followed the Cosmic Cycles as a form of personal devotion and every year when this lesson arrived, I did what most people do…
I looked at the relationship I’ve had with my partner over the last 19 years and 3 months. I looked at Fred and how he showed up “for me”, how I’ve shown up for him and I looked at our communication patterns. I analyzed my expectations, my needs, boundaries and our ongoing connection.
For nearly twenty years, Fred and I have walked this life together. For eleven years, I have intentionally worked with the Earth School curriculum, allowing each cycle to reveal something deeper about myself.
But this year, something shifted. Instead of focusing on the relationship itself, I found myself studying the relationship through the lens of the 8 Sacred Wounds™ – my proprietary parts partnership framework
Specifically, The Strong One and another pattern I know many women will recognize – the Too Much Woman.
I started paying attention to the moments where I became smaller. The moments where I over-explained, where I softened my truth and where I carried more than was mine to carry. I’ve been paying attention to the moments where I compensated, adjusted, accommodated and absorbed in the name of keeping the peace.
Not because Fred asked me to but because somewhere along the way I learned that peace was my responsibility and once I saw it, I couldn’t unsee it.
What surprised me most wasn’t what I learned about our relationship. It was what I learned about myself and what happened next completely changed the question I had been asking…
The question stopped being What is happening in my relationship? and became What happens to me when I am influenced by someone I love? By their thoughts, feelings, experiences and expectations of me.
EARTH SCHOOL
June is Intimate Love Relationships
Most people think that in an intimate relationship, our work is to understand our partner.
Earth School teaches something different.
Relationships reveal whether we can remain connected to ourselves while being influenced by someone else who truly matters to us.
The influence isn’t the problem. Unconscious influence is.
The moment we stop noticing what is happening inside of us, when our partnership is strained, we begin abandoning ourselves without realizing it.
The purpose of our intimate love relationship is not to understand others, fix, heal or change them. The purpose of a love relationship is to discover whether you can remain connected to yourself while being influenced by someone else.
What can be revealed this month in Intimate Love:
• Relationships reveal what solitude conceals
• Triggers reveal unconscious patterns
• Influence is not the problem; unconscious influence is
• What gets activated is what is ready to be seen
• Relationships are mirrors, not problems
• Expectations often reveal attachments
• Self-abandonment is often mistaken for love
This is the kind of stuff we learn and work through in The Healing Sanctuary™
Come learn more about Earth School and how understanding these 12 Cosmic Cycles affects and influences you, by checking out The Healing Sanctuary…
Sacred Wound Spotlight: The Strong One
The Strong One is the third Sacred Wound in my proprietary 8 Sacred Wounds framework™ and she doesn’t fear responsibility. Instead, she fears what might happen if she stops carrying it.
She often becomes:
- the peacekeeper
- the fixer
- the caretaker
- the emotional regulator
- the one who absorbs tension
Not because she wants to but because somewhere along the way she learned that her value was connected to what she could hold.
The challenge is that eventually she becomes so focused on carrying everyone else that she stops noticing herself and resentment quietly begins growing underneath responsibility.
She is one of my greatest mirrors.
Awareness Question For this week:
Where have I assumed responsibility for someone else’s experience in order to avoid my own discomfort?
In 2025, I wrote a book called Walking the Wyrd Path – The 8 Sacred Wounds. It is book 2 of a 3-part series called Conscious Living. It is available on Amazon. It where we develop awareness through the lense of the 8 Sacred Wounds
Generational Trauma or a Metaphysical Message?
One of the strongest themes appearing in both my Facebook Group ‘Self Awareness Universe’ and in my online Community Healing Sanctuary™ appearing right now is:
GUILT
Guilt is one of the 22 Generational Trauma patterns and is often also a metaphysical message that causes digestive issues, lower back pain, hip tension, menstrual cycle complications and bladder infections.
Women feeling guilty for having needs is a learned behaviour. Feeling guilty for saying no, for disappointing people and for choosing themselves – also learned.
Guilt is such a powerful emotion because it often convinces us that we’ve done something wrong, when sometimes all we’ve really done is choose ourselves, change, grow or disappoint someone’s expectations.
When I see guilt in a client’s energy body, I become curious about whether it is coming from their values or from their conditioning.
How to Know the Difference
Healthy guilt can alert us when we’ve acted outside of our integrity. It offers us the conscious opportunity to shift our behaviour.
Unhealthy guilt often appears when we begin acting within our integrity after years of putting everyone else first.
If this is you, the question I would invite you to ask is What are you feeling guilty about?
Guilt is rarely the root emotion. Beneath it we often find fear, grief, sadness, anger, disappointment or a deep desire to be accepted and loved.
From a Generational Trauma perspective, many women inherited guilt as a way of staying connected to their families, relationships and roles.
They learned that being a “good” woman meant sacrificing, accommodating, carrying and giving.
The moment they began choosing something different, guilt appeared as a form of internal resistance.
One of the greatest lessons in Earth School is realizing that feeling guilty does not automatically mean you are guilty.
Sometimes it simply means you are growing beyond an old version of yourself.
So rather than asking, “How do I get rid of this guilt?” I invite you to become curious about what this guilt is trying to protect you from?
The answer is often far more revealing than the guilt itself.
This past spring, I wrote a strategic guidebook: The 3 Generational Trauma Patterns That Are Running Your Life (And Why Nothing Else Has Fixed Them)… I would love to share it with you.
